Counselling provides you with time and space to discuss, without judgement or criticism, what is troubling you. It can prove invaluable to speak with someone you don't know, someone neutral who is not personally involved in your life and its current difficulties. Counsellors at Body Positive Dorset can help you explore and clarify issues related to HIV, your life generally, your relationships and your future.
We will not provide you with answers or advice but rather assist you to find these for yourself. Counselling is about supporting you as you endeavour to increase awareness, become more assertive, more capable, increase self belief and improve your own abilities to find a way forward. It is not always possible to completely solve a problem, but a situation can often be significantly improved with counselling. We will support you as you discover what can be changed for the better and how that might happen. Counselling can also help you to reach a point of acceptance regarding things that will not change, and how you can deal with these elements of your life more effectively.
Choosing to go to counselling can be empowering in itself. It is rarely a decision that is taken lightly. It is however, a decision that can serve to remind you, that you can take control of your life, when some aspects may seem confusing, chaotic or even unbearable. With our own comfortable and private counselling suite, you will have access to dedicated friendly, supportive counsellor and once you have decided that counselling could be for you, a support worker will arrange the referral.
B started counselling in his desire to finally address eleven years of avoidance; eleven years of proving to the world that HIV had not affected his life. Five years previously, B had met his current partner and had grown increasingly fearful that he could infect the person he loved most. This affected B's ability to express himself sexually, intimately, and then the fear was that he could lose the love and the stable relationship he had always longed for. He turned to Body Positive Dorset for support through the counselling service.
Counselling was a long, challenging process that helped B gradually to deal with issues buried in his mind for years. It helped him confront difficult, painful facts and feelings, and to put his past into perspective. Dealing with his past helped B to understand it, accept it and to stop blaming himself unnecessarily for things that had occurred. It gave him, he says, the confidence and the life skills not only to deal with problems more healthily in the future, but to live life to the full and enjoy every second of it.